Dream Marriage – “Hallmark Romance” can happen

Looking into each other's eyes with affection, touching a cheek, holds and frees love at the same time.
Intimate renewal and deep relational meaning is one of God’s greatest gifts to humanity.

Would your life change if you could feel a closer, more intimate, stronger, relationship with your partner? Dare to find that you can have the enduring, passionate marriage you dreamed!

Research confirms: When marriage partnerships are strong, they share much more experience of better health, more stable finances, and supportive unity, thereby more ability, through less personal distraction, than partners in stress or distress. They hold a better environment to pass more love and attention to themselves and to their children. Developing an emotionally intelligent marriage relationship should be the start of generations for your family’s ability to enhance family relationships. Emotional intelligence and better health lead to more financial independence. And overcoming financial hardship allows you to contribute above bare minimums.

Most marriages, even in homes of faith, suffer not only from divorce, but from living apart under the same roof. Living “parallel lives” is not the plan our God holds for his children.

We do not start lives together to become statistics. We most often, just have not been taught the best abilities to understand how to blend our needs, with the needs of our partner, in ways that both can agree to grow together. One of the valuable principles you will learn is how to overcome repeating those same ole gridlocked fights. Your magnetic polarity, the differences between partners, can induce more exciting passion, rather than contempt and criticism, defensiveness or stonewalling.

Deciding to do for your partner, just for the sake of doing! Nothing really traded for a return. Just Love expressed in Joy of Giving.
Deciding to do for your partner, just for the sake of doing! Nothing really traded for a return. Just Love expressed in Joy of Giving.

As part of your learning experience, you are also encouraged to share these principles; principles which best determine “Masters” of relationship rather than “Disasters” of relationship. Sharing your new skills will “hammer home” the principles you will come to understand.

Little ways, Every day, Simple pleasures, Sharing moments - LESS is more!
Little ways, Every day, Simple pleasures, Sharing moments – LESS is more!

I am writing to share some news about a relationship enhancement class, based on the internationally acclaimed research of Dr. John Gottman as presented in his book, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, to be offered in the Greenwood, SC area this January/February/March of 2016. Locations and exact times announced below. *** Now announcing plans for classes in Columbia, and Greenville, SC areas too!

As a community leader, you may know couples that could benefit from attending. You may have some individuals whose spouses are unwilling to do marriage counseling, but would attend a relationship enhancement class. If a couple’s relationship is strong, this class will provide them with tools and insights to make their relationship even better. If a couple has a distressed relationship, this class can provide a road map for repair. In addition, The Gottman Institute finds that many clinicians, pastors, priests, rabbis and their spouses attend this class as a means of personally experiencing the Gottman Method, and find it to be enchantingly enriching and a great professional resource.

By extending this offering from a two day weekend workshop, to an 8 session program, the psycho-educational methods of “Gottman 7 Principles Program”, will be enhanced with the “Biblical Reference Guide for the Gottman Method”, by David Penner, Ph.D. and “How to Make Relationships Work – A Practical Guide for Couples” by John Gottman, Ph.D. These three couples coaching programs are usually offered as three distinct workshops. However, I believe in giving you all you need to be able to make enhanced relationships in your family both doable and sustainable. Couples will have time to really absorb and experience the Principles, rather than rushing through too much, too fast.

And, couples will be offered opportunity to continue community through timely website and webcast webinars with other graduates of “The Seven Principles”, if you so choose. And select couples may be invited to assist in other workshops, if they would like. (We believe in protecting your privacy, and still offering choices.) Couples who have participated in these workshops, and followed through with some additional enhancement have a rate of separation or divorce (almost unbelievably) significantly less than without the experience. More, they have significantly higher feelings of personal and marital satisfaction!

Kissing in a flower garden, while strolling along a path. Your pathway to connection.
Romantic renewal can begin any and every time you choose.

It is my mission to reach out to couples so they may benefit from the Gottman Institute’s research-based insights and tools. I hate divorce. I detest growing apart. If my wife and I had known the skills available through Gottman, the little issues that accumulate into large disruptions in our marriage would have transformed into caring, affectionate, even humorous dialog long before condemnation had chance to advance.

If you, or a couple you know, is interested in registering or finding out additional information about the workshop, please contact Chuck Taylor. A free 20 – 30 minute discovery session is offered, if you ask. Learn first-hand, how your partner, and you, can emotionally thrive for the rest of your lives.
Call 1 (864)341-4775 cell. Visit www.betterlifechoice.com or Email: thechuckyt@hotmail.com

DO YOU HAVE DIFFICULTY COMMUNICATING AND UNDERSTANDING EACH OTHER? ARE YOU STUCK, ARGUING IN CIRCLES ABOUT THE SAME ISSUES? OR ARE YOU IN A GOOD RELATIONSHIP AND WOULD LIKE TO MAKE IT EVEN BETTER?

This time, Your Valentines "Gift of Gottman" can last for a lifetime. And passes to your children!
This time, Your Valentines “Gift of Gottman” can last for a lifetime. And passes to your children!

Then the scientifically research based psychological education of The Gottman Institute is for you!

RESEARCH SHOWS THAT ON AVERAGE, COUPLES WAIT SIX YEARS FROM THE FIRST SIGNS OF PROBLEMS BEFORE THEY SEEK HELP. THAT’S LIKE WAITING SIX YEARS WITH CANCER BEFORE SEEKING MEDICAL CARE. PLEASE DON’T WAIT UNTIL THE RELATIONSHIP IS TERMINAL.

Problems don’t just go away. Without help, they fester. Take Action Now. Choose from two opportune interactive workshop schedules offered this Winter of 2016:
“Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work” – Saturday mornings or “Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work” – Tuesday evenings. Register now to guarantee your space. Class size is limited so each couple will feel enabled, important, and enhanced from experiential benefit. (Class size may determine the location of the workshops.)

DVD, workbooks, texts, and more to help you
Even after the workshop experience, Take home and review all the tools you need, any time you need.

For your convenience, I am pleased to announce that this valuable class experience will be held:
On 8 consecutive Saturday mornings, Feb / Mar 10:00am – 12:00pm, at the __(TBA)____ location. (Greenwood)
On 10 consecutive Tuesday evenings, Jan / Feb / Mar, from 7:00 to 8:30 at the __(TBA)____ location.  (Greenwood)

Early Bird Special: Invest Only $495.00 per couple. (Normally $595.00) Compare this to group couples professional counseling rates which can require $75.00 or more per couple per session of 50 minutes:
You each receive over 15 hours of the best Scientifically and Emotionally proven psycho-educational experiences. And your books, workbooks, DVD’s and pamphlets are included! (Visa/MC, Disc, Debit, PayPal or checks. Split payments available upon request.)
Early registration allows us to know how many supplies to order. Late registration requires additional expenses. We pass the savings to you.

Any age, any ethnic, love is love.
Confidence comes with knowing someone cares and supports you, even if you do have differences. Differences especially, can become attractive again.

THIS PROGRAM IS BASED UPON THE NEW YORK TIMES BEST SELLER: “THE SEVEN PRINCIPLES FOR MAKING MARRIAGE WORK” by JOHN GOTTMAN, PHD. STRAIGHTFORWARD IN ITS APPROACH, YET PROFOUND IN ITS EFFECT, THE PRINCIPLES OUTLINED IN THIS GROUNDBREAKING BOOK TEACH PARTNERS NEW AND STARTLING STRATEGIES FOR MAKING THEIR MARRIAGE WORK. FOR OVER 30 YEARS DR. GOTTMAN SCIENTIFICALLY ANALYZED THE HABITS OF over 3000 MARRIED COUPLES AND ESTABLISHED A METHOD OF CORRECTING THE BEHAVIORS THAT PUTS THOUSANDS OF MARRIAGES ON THE ROCKS. HE HELPS COUPLES FOCUS ON EACH OTHER, ON PAYING ATTENTION TO THE SMALL DAY-TO-DAY MOMENTS THAT, STRUNG TOGETHER, MAKE UP THE HEART AND SOUL OF ANY RELATIONSHIP.

THIS CLASS IS DESIGNED TO STRENGTHEN YOUR MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP:
IF YOU HAVE A STRONG RELATIONSHIP, THIS CLASS WILL PROVIDE YOU WITH INSIGHTS AND TOOLS TO MAKE IT EVEN BETTER.
IF YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS DISTRESSED, THIS CLASS WILL PROVIDE A ROAD MAP FOR REPAIR.

As a recognized Gottman 7 Principles Program Educator, RMI Strategic Intervention Certified Life Coach, Charles W, (Chuck) Taylor, Jr., will teach specifically what couples, who have learned to be Masters of marriage, do to create a long-lasting relationship, and how you may enjoy the benefits of a stable, committed, passionate relationship. He also demonstrates much of “what not to do”.

This Gottmann “7 Principles Program” is designed for all couples in a committed relationship: Pre-engaged couples, pre-marital couples, everyone in committed relationship from newlyweds to senior couples: those who wish to enhance a good marriage, and those needing better conflict management tools.

Learn insights and research-based relationship skills that can dramatically improve the intimacy & friendship in your relationship. And, learn how you can resolve conflict in a healthy, productive way. Respect and presence are renewed. Shared goals and meaning take you beyond “willpower”. Include spirituality with knowledge and turn “hope” into “happening”.

Dreaming together. In a dreamy setting. With the partner you love.
Dreaming together. In a dreamy setting. With the partner you love.

 

THIS CLASS COMBINES TEACHING AND DEMONSTRATIONS WITH ONE-ON-ONE WORK SESSIONS WHERE YOU AND YOUR PARTNER FOCUS ON YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH EACH OTHER. ALL OF THE DIALOGUES WITH YOUR PARTNER WILL BE DONE IN PRIVATE, AS WE ALWAYS EMPHASIZE PRIVACY AND COMFORT. CONFIDENTIALITY IS STRICTLY MAINTAINED. ALTHOUGH WE ENCOURAGE QUESTIONS AND COMMENTS, YOU DO NOT NEED TO SPEAK IN THE WORKSHOP IF YOU DO NOT WANT. WE WELCOME PEOPLE OF ALL BACKGROUNDS, AGES, and FAITHS.

Building a Sound Relationship House is accomplished one small step after another.
Building a Sound Relationship House is accomplished one small step after another.

YOU WILL LEARN HOW TO:
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Foster Respect, Affection & Closeness.
* Build & share a Deeper Connection with each others inner world.
* Keep discussions calm.
* Break through & resolve conflict Gridlock.
* Strengthen & Maintain the gains in your relationship.

 

 

** IF A COUPLE IS DEALING WITH EMOTIONAL ABUSE, DOMESTIC VIOLENCE OR SUBSTANCE ABUSE , this class may not be appropriate. WE encourage you to seek therapy if you are in high relational distress.

THE PRICE FOR THIS CLASS INCLUDES:

* The “SEVEN PRINCIPLES OF MAKING MARRIAGE WORKBOOK.
* TWO of “THE SEVEN PRINCIPLES COMPANION WORKBOOKs Allowing each partner to privately record answers, and journal thoughtfully about the concepts in the book, as they apply to your relationship. The “WORKBOOK” takes users, step-by-step through the Interactive Exercises in each chapter of “THE SEVEN PRINCIPLES BOOK”.
* Both: “L
OVE MAP” & “OPEN ENDED QUESTIONS CARD DECK”. This deck is a fun and effective way for couples to get to know one another, increasing closeness & friendship.
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The “Biblical Reference Guide for the Gottman Method”, by David Penner, Ph.D. Find that the 7 Principles are Biblically inspired and endorsed, as well as scientifically and statistically correct.
* And “How to Make Relationships Work – A Practical Guide for Couples” by John Gottman, Ph.D. Normally for the Gottman Educators, You can Have more tools to Follow Through, as you need, to review, and to renew.
* ENGAGING PRESENTATIONS and the OPPORTUNITY for many private exercises and conversations with your partner.
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CHUCK and his assistant(s) will be available to give you PERSONAL SUPPORT and GUIDANCE as needed.

A Biblical reference guide enhances your understanding of why God's plan includes Wisdom with Love.
A Biblical reference guide enhances your understanding of why God’s plan includes Wisdom with Love.

* Depending on the location, coffee, tea, or sodas & light snacks may be provided. Meals are “on your own”. Please feel free to bring your own snacks & drinks as well.

Please let us know if there are any physical disability concerns (ADA accommodations), or baby-sitting services that you may need, as you register. We cannot ensure the availability of appropriate accommodations without prior notification. (Baby sitting will incur the additional charge of the sitter.)

Picture pretty should describe your relationship as well as your photo album. It can!
Picture pretty should describe your relationship as well as your photo album. It can!

Your registration fee is Non-Refundable, but transferable. Once registered, if unforeseen circumstances prevent you from attending The 7 Principles Program classes you registered for, you are welcome to attend another 7 Principles program class with Chuck or BetterLifeChoice, within 12 months of the registration date instead. HOWEVER, IF YOU CANCEL WITHIN 72 HOURS OR FAIL TO SHOW UP FOR THE WORKSHOP, THERE WILL BE A $95 TRANSFER FEE APPLIED. All classes are enrolled on a First-Come, First-Serve basis.

FAQ s:
1. We don’t want group therapy. Do we have to share with the other couples?

No. The couples workshop is an educational experience with exercises built into the curriculum to teach you the skills that the “masters” of relationships use. There is no group work and no public disclosure of any kind. The information is presented to you in an interactive lecture format and you will work in a “nest” of just the two of you during the exercises. We provide plenty of room, so you don’t have to worry about the other couples overhearing you. And if you get stuck on an exercise, we will there to help you through that exercise.

2. Must both partners attend or can I come alone?

Since the class involves couples doing exercises together, both partners must participate.

3. My partner isn’t a reader. Can we still come to the class if he/she won’t read the book?

Yes, still come to the class. While the book provides very valuable information, the class lectures will summarize the content of the book. Each person will need a book, however, to do the couple’s exercises efficiently.

4. Should we do the exercises in the book at home or save them for class?

The class will involve doing some of the exercises from the book, so doing them first at home would duplicate some of them. In some cases, the directions for doing the exercises in class have been revised and updated from those presented in “The Seven Principles” book. The educators also role-play “how to” – and “how not to” – do some of the exercises in order to help participants get the most out of each exercise. There are some exercises in the book that the class will not have time to do, and couples are encouraged to do them at home after that chapter has been covered in class.

5. CANCELLATION POLICY?

Your registration fee is non-refundable, but transferable. Once registered, if unforeseen circumstances prevent you from attending the 7 Principles Program Class you registered for, you are welcome to attend another 7 Principles Program Class with us within 12 months of the registration date instead. However, if you cancel within 72 hours or fail to show up for the workshop, there will be a $95 transfer fee applied. All classes are enrolled on a first come, first serve basis. (An “On Standby” list is sometimes available for any “72 hour” cancellations.)

6. ADA ACCOMMODATIONS?

Special needs? Please let us know how we can help you. ADA accommodations will be made in accordance with the law. If you require ADA or other accommodations, please let us know what your needs are at the time of registration.


Concluding Thoughts:
One of the reasons couples get stuck in perpetual conflict is simply a lack of education and training. We are more than willing to train for marathons, or seek education to further our careers, or go to a financial adviser to guide us in our investments. But we go into marriage with virtually no training or tools to have available when the inevitable conflict comes.

The Principles learned will also enhance your abilities to apply to conflict resolutions and emotionally intelligent interaction in your work environment, and with other family as well as with your spouse.

Join us for 15+ hours of training that will reawaken your passion for each other and equip you to lovingly take on conflict. Reserve your spot now! There is room for a maximum of 20 couples per class.

Workshop Cost: Only $595 per couple (less than half the cost of 20 hours of marriage therapy!) Early Registration Discount  Only $495.00 includes your materials.

Workbooks for each partner so each can journal thoughts, and share as you prefer.
All the materials you need are included with the workshop.

What better gift than a couples relationship enhancement workshop? For your selves, or for your children, for a lifetime!

In this class you will learn to:

* Deepen your knowledge of one another
* Build friendship and trust
* Recognize and respond to bids for emotional connection
* Be open to influence
* Understand and work with both solvable and difficult problems
* Get through gridlocked conflict
* Create a special “Story of Us”
* Maintain your emotionally enhanced relationship

More info about “The 7 Principals: “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work”  is the acclaimed culmination of four decades of the research of Dr. John Gottman, made widely available for couples like you who long for better relationships. Congratulate yourself for taking time to begin or continue your journey of deep and loving partnership.

Learn to be even more than the friend you always wanted, and to share friendship with the one who has committed to you.
Learn to be even more than the friend you always wanted, and to share friendship with the one who has committed to you.

Couples that would benefit from this workshop include:

* Pre-Engaged
* Pre-Marital
* Everyone in committed relationships, from Newlyweds to Seniors
* Those who wish to enhance a good marriage
* Those needing better conflict management tools

Couples that this workshop is not suited for:

* Severe relationship distress
* Emotional abuse
* Domestic abuse
* People not in recovery for addiction
* Untreated mental health problems in one or both partners


What will we learn in this workshop? What the workshop is all about:
* Seven Principles Program description
* The research foundation of the program
* Proven tools to help couples
* Improved friendship, fondness and admiration
* Enhanced romance and intimacy
* Managing conflict constructively
* Gaining skills to address perpetual and solvable problems
* Creating shared meaning
* Maintaining realistic and sustainable gains throughout a lifetime
* Our format includes lectures and private couples exercises.

What the workshop is not:

* It is NOT therapy.
* It is NOT an open sharing of personal problems. All exercises & discussions will occur privately, between you and your significant other.

Chuck has spent a lifetime getting ready for this valuable training. And devoted hundreds of hours to present it for you.
Chuck has spent a lifetime getting ready for this valuable training. And devoted hundreds of hours to present it for you.

Chuck Taylor :
Certified Life Coach – RMT-Strategic Intervention , Certified Laity – UMC, Certified ES – EAGALA, Gottman 7PP Educator.

www.BetterLifeChoice.com 1(864) 341-4775 cell. Email: thechuckyt@hotmail.com

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